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Grow Your Self Esteem - Mix With Positive and Supportive People
It is my firm belief that everything in your life is reflected by the people with whom you spend the most amount of time.
Jim Rohn once said "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." The premise being that the five people that you spend most of your time with are the five people who influence the way in which you behave, and the way in which you perceive, think and feel about yourself.
So if you spend your time with healthy people who exercise and eat the right foods, or with people who are successful in life, then the likelihood is that you'll do or become the same.
If you spend your time with positive people, then the way they are will reflect in you and you'll become more positive. This is likely to do wonders for your self esteem.
Conversely, when we spend most of our time with people who are negative, and don't believe that anything good ever happens in this life, our own thinking becomes coloured by their words and actions.
If you think about it, our language reflects that in a lot of its popular phrases:
"Birds of a feather flock together" "Show me where you fish and I'll show you what you catch" "You're known by the company you keep."
So instead, spend more time with positive people, and your own thinking will change. You'll notice that you will be more likely to think about positive things all the time rather than negative stuff.
There's nothing that builds your confidence quicker than by thinking positively and being around others who believe the same way you do.
Remember, we become what we think about. Simply by changing what we think, we can change how our life is manifested, our self esteem will grow and we'll start to achieve what we're capable of.
Paul Heaton has written a 20 page report on How to Overcome Your Self Esteem Problems, Quickly and Easily. To download your complimentary copy, visit http://www.growyourselfesteem.com
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Jim Rohn once said "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." The premise being that the five people that you spend most of your time with are the five people who influence the way in which you behave, and the way in which you perceive, think and feel about yourself.
So if you spend your time with healthy people who exercise and eat the right foods, or with people who are successful in life, then the likelihood is that you'll do or become the same.
If you spend your time with positive people, then the way they are will reflect in you and you'll become more positive. This is likely to do wonders for your self esteem.
Conversely, when we spend most of our time with people who are negative, and don't believe that anything good ever happens in this life, our own thinking becomes coloured by their words and actions.
If you think about it, our language reflects that in a lot of its popular phrases:
"Birds of a feather flock together" "Show me where you fish and I'll show you what you catch" "You're known by the company you keep."
So instead, spend more time with positive people, and your own thinking will change. You'll notice that you will be more likely to think about positive things all the time rather than negative stuff.
There's nothing that builds your confidence quicker than by thinking positively and being around others who believe the same way you do.
Remember, we become what we think about. Simply by changing what we think, we can change how our life is manifested, our self esteem will grow and we'll start to achieve what we're capable of.
Paul Heaton has written a 20 page report on How to Overcome Your Self Esteem Problems, Quickly and Easily. To download your complimentary copy, visit http://www.growyourselfesteem.com
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Grow Your Self Esteem - Make Positive Contributions to Others
There's nothing better in my opinion than to do a good turn for someone. It can make you feel like a million dollars! The phrase "it's better to give than to receive" is certainly true.
We all know how we feel about someone when they take the time out of their busy day to do something for us, so by doing things for others we'll engender that same feeling.
It doesn't have to be anything dramatic - making your partner a cup of coffee first thing in the morning whilst they're still in bed, buying that unexpected little present for someone for no reason, helping someone finish a task at work even though you and they both know that you won't get any credit from the boss.
Imagine how differently you would feel after a year if each day you have consciously made positive contributions to others' lives. I would imagine the following would happen:
- Your place of work will be a lot more productive and fun.
- You'll have more friends.
- Your colleagues and friends will be more satisfied and engaged.
- You'll enjoy closer relationships with your family and friends.
- You'll be healthier, happier, and well on your way to a longer life.
- You'll feel much better about yourself, and your life have improved because of it.
There's lots of scientific and anecdotal evidence to show the importance of making positive contributions to those around us. Take every opportunity to do so and thus improve the positivity of others. It will make a big difference.
This is one of the fastest ways to change how we feel about ourselves and if you think about it, its one of the easiest to do.
Make this a habit and it'll change how you feel about yourself as you begin to see yourself as well-liked and popular.
Paul Heaton has written a 20 page report on How to Overcome Your Self Esteem Problems, Quickly and Easily. To download your complimentary copy, visit http://www.growyourselfesteem.com
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We all know how we feel about someone when they take the time out of their busy day to do something for us, so by doing things for others we'll engender that same feeling.
It doesn't have to be anything dramatic - making your partner a cup of coffee first thing in the morning whilst they're still in bed, buying that unexpected little present for someone for no reason, helping someone finish a task at work even though you and they both know that you won't get any credit from the boss.
Imagine how differently you would feel after a year if each day you have consciously made positive contributions to others' lives. I would imagine the following would happen:
- Your place of work will be a lot more productive and fun.
- You'll have more friends.
- Your colleagues and friends will be more satisfied and engaged.
- You'll enjoy closer relationships with your family and friends.
- You'll be healthier, happier, and well on your way to a longer life.
- You'll feel much better about yourself, and your life have improved because of it.
There's lots of scientific and anecdotal evidence to show the importance of making positive contributions to those around us. Take every opportunity to do so and thus improve the positivity of others. It will make a big difference.
This is one of the fastest ways to change how we feel about ourselves and if you think about it, its one of the easiest to do.
Make this a habit and it'll change how you feel about yourself as you begin to see yourself as well-liked and popular.
Paul Heaton has written a 20 page report on How to Overcome Your Self Esteem Problems, Quickly and Easily. To download your complimentary copy, visit http://www.growyourselfesteem.com
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What is Cognitive Behavior Therapy?
Let's take the phrase apart.
Cognitive means "relating to thought". Behavior means "the way in which a person responds to a specific set of conditions".
Let's put those two words together: Cognitive Behavior then is the way we think about our response to a set of conditions.
How this applies to our self-esteem is a critical piece in understanding just how to change our thoughts about our behavior so that our self-esteem stops taking such a beating.
Low self-esteem negatively impacts all areas of our lives, whether it is in our relationships, our job, or even our health.
If we can figure out a way to avoid this type of self-judgment it would be possible to elevate our self-esteem to a much more healthy level no matter how low our self-esteem is when we begin.
CBT (cognitive behavior therapy) helps us to adjust our unhealthy and judgmental thoughts and behavior patterns.
The philosophy behind CBT is that what we think about ourselves and our life determines our thoughts and feelings about ourselves.
This method works because it helps us to become aware of such negative thoughts and feelings and we can then replace them with much more positive thoughts.
Here are the 5 basic steps of CBT:
Step 1: Identify situations that bother you or you find stressful.
What deflates your self-esteem? Criticism? Do you always expect the worst? Are you usually angry? Do you feel fearful about presentation or confrontation? Do you have any perpetual bad habits? Over eating? Over spending?
Step 2: Evaluate our thoughts and beliefs about yourself when these situations occur.
Now it is time to make an honest evaluation. Notice your thoughts when the above situations occur. Do you immediately begin a conversation with yourself in your mind where you berate yourself for not being good enough, smart enough, fast enough, or rich enough? Are all your thoughts about yourself negative? Is it possible that you are misinterpreting situations and people's responses to you because of your internalized negative beliefs?
Step 3: Identify the specific negative thoughts you may have.
What you think, you become. If you think you're a stupid idiot, you're likely to reinforce that belief and eventually become inept and unable to do anything well. Be watchful for this kind of put down of yourself. We are often our own worst enemies when it comes to self-esteem issues.
Step 4: Ask yourself questions.
You won't be able to do this overnight, but by observing such negative thoughts, you can slow down and ask yourself to answer the question honestly, "Is this really true about me?" Once you begin to notice your negative thoughts, you can begin to be a little more positive. Not everything negative you say about yourself is true. Ask yourself this question, "Did I do anything well or right in this situation?"
Step 5: Change your thoughts about yourself.
This step is the hardest, but in order to change your self-esteem, you have to do it. You have to replace your negative thoughts with more positive thoughts and beliefs about yourself.
Start with just one and move on from there. It will take a little practice, but sometimes just being aware of it is the only key you need to effect a huge change in your life.
Paul Heaton has written a 20 page report on How to Overcome Your Self Esteem Problems, Quickly and Easily. To download your complimentary copy, visit http://www.growyourselfesteem.com
by Paul Heaton
Cognitive means "relating to thought". Behavior means "the way in which a person responds to a specific set of conditions".
Let's put those two words together: Cognitive Behavior then is the way we think about our response to a set of conditions.
How this applies to our self-esteem is a critical piece in understanding just how to change our thoughts about our behavior so that our self-esteem stops taking such a beating.
Low self-esteem negatively impacts all areas of our lives, whether it is in our relationships, our job, or even our health.
If we can figure out a way to avoid this type of self-judgment it would be possible to elevate our self-esteem to a much more healthy level no matter how low our self-esteem is when we begin.
CBT (cognitive behavior therapy) helps us to adjust our unhealthy and judgmental thoughts and behavior patterns.
The philosophy behind CBT is that what we think about ourselves and our life determines our thoughts and feelings about ourselves.
This method works because it helps us to become aware of such negative thoughts and feelings and we can then replace them with much more positive thoughts.
Here are the 5 basic steps of CBT:
Step 1: Identify situations that bother you or you find stressful.
What deflates your self-esteem? Criticism? Do you always expect the worst? Are you usually angry? Do you feel fearful about presentation or confrontation? Do you have any perpetual bad habits? Over eating? Over spending?
Step 2: Evaluate our thoughts and beliefs about yourself when these situations occur.
Now it is time to make an honest evaluation. Notice your thoughts when the above situations occur. Do you immediately begin a conversation with yourself in your mind where you berate yourself for not being good enough, smart enough, fast enough, or rich enough? Are all your thoughts about yourself negative? Is it possible that you are misinterpreting situations and people's responses to you because of your internalized negative beliefs?
Step 3: Identify the specific negative thoughts you may have.
What you think, you become. If you think you're a stupid idiot, you're likely to reinforce that belief and eventually become inept and unable to do anything well. Be watchful for this kind of put down of yourself. We are often our own worst enemies when it comes to self-esteem issues.
Step 4: Ask yourself questions.
You won't be able to do this overnight, but by observing such negative thoughts, you can slow down and ask yourself to answer the question honestly, "Is this really true about me?" Once you begin to notice your negative thoughts, you can begin to be a little more positive. Not everything negative you say about yourself is true. Ask yourself this question, "Did I do anything well or right in this situation?"
Step 5: Change your thoughts about yourself.
This step is the hardest, but in order to change your self-esteem, you have to do it. You have to replace your negative thoughts with more positive thoughts and beliefs about yourself.
Start with just one and move on from there. It will take a little practice, but sometimes just being aware of it is the only key you need to effect a huge change in your life.
Paul Heaton has written a 20 page report on How to Overcome Your Self Esteem Problems, Quickly and Easily. To download your complimentary copy, visit http://www.growyourselfesteem.com
by Paul Heaton
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